Thursday, December 20, 2012

kyun mushkil lagta hai mahilaon ko samajhna








Han aj ka topic yahi hai.. akser suney me ata hai kuch samay tak sab kuch theek rehne k bad achanak apka husband/ boyfriend/ wud b life partner apko kehta hai... ab bas karo yaar main or nahi jhel sakta.. jab dekho tab peechey hi padi rehti ho.. khana khaya... kya kar rahe hain... ghar kab tak aengey.... office me itni der ho gai... mera phone kyun nahi recieve kiya... mere msg ka jawaab kyun nahi diya.. mere liye koi gift kyun nahi liya.. apne kaha tha call karenge fir ap bhool kaise gae.. ye kuch batein aisi hain jo amuman har aadmi ko mahilaon se sunney ko mil jati hai...

lekin bjae is bat ko samajhne k ki mahilaon ka care karne ka tareeka hi yahi hai, purush in baton ko kuch is tarah se letey hain, jaisey vo koi bacchey hain or unki hamsafar unper believe nahi karti isiliye itni toka taki karti hain.. ghadi ghadi her cheez k liye yad dilati hain ki ye kiya ya nahi vo kiya ya nahi..

bat bilkul seedhi si hai mahilaein hamesha dil se sochti hain or purush dimag se.. mainey ek kitab me padha tha ki jab bhi purushon ko koi samasya hoti hai ve sabse bolna band kar detey hain..or jab tak vo samsya khatam nahi ho jati vo reserve ho jatey hain.. jabki iska  theek vipreet hota hai mahilaun k sath.. jab mahila samasya me hoti hai to usey ek aisey sath ki zaroorat hoti hai jo sirf uski bat sun le.. lekin purush ye bat samajhne k bjae mahila ko apna dimag kahin or divert karne ji salah detey hain solutions nikalne lagtey hain ya fir aisa pretend kar k condition panick kar detey hain jaise mahila ki samasya ka karan vahi hain.. jabki aisa hota nahi hai.. mahila sirf is bat k liye ashwast hona chahti hai ki hai mera wud b/husband/ boyfriend at least mere sath hai..bhale hi us samasya ka samadhan ho ya naho kam se kam mental or moral support milne se usey is bat ki tasalli milti hai ki han meri bhi koi fikra karta hai..


 koi is duniya me hai jisey meri parwah hai..lekin jab aisa nahi ho pata tab vo toot jati hai,, jab vo tooti hai tab ro kar apne man ko halka kar lene se bhi usey sukoon mil jata hai.. lekin sabsey jyada takleef tab hoti hai jab bajae uskey ansuon k mahatva ko samajhne k usey ye tane diye jaein ki vo kamzoor hai or mahilaein jeevan bhar roti hi rehti hain...purush ye nahi samajh pate ki rona bhi zaroori hai.. agar vo nahi roengi to unka depression kisi na kisi frustation k roop me bahar aega.. yadi kabhi aisa ho to usey support karein..usey gale se laga kar is bat ka ehsas karwaein ki han main tumhare pas hu.. tumhare sath hu.. hamesha.. agar aisa na kar paein to kam se kam usey kisi bat ko lekar ulahna na dein.. akhirkar vo mahila hi hai jo apke jeevan me akar khushiyan bharti hai apka khyal rakhti hai apke parivar apkey bacchon a khyal rahkti hai
uski housla afzai karein.. agar subah ek achhi se smile k sath apne pyar bhara good morning bhi bol diya to mahila utne me bhi khush ho jati hai.. uski choti choti khushiyon ka khayal rakhein..

 agar ap din me ek bar uskey khud phone kar k uska hal chal lengey ghar ki stithi k bare me poocheney.. usey din me ek bar bhi i love you ka msg bhej denge to vo santusht ho jati hai.. mahila ki khushi ka koi thikana hi nahi rahega or vo dugne utsah se har kam karegi.. kabhi ye na samjhein ki vo apko tok kar badl rahi hai.. nahi ye uske pyar jatane ka tareek hai jisey amuman har purush kuch samay bad ajhel samajhne lagta hai..bacchon k mamley me bhi yahi hai purush bacchon ko pyar kartein hai lekin kabhi jatatey nahi..


wahin mahila ek bacchey per apna pyaar poori tarah niyochavar kar deti hai.. har second usi ka dhyan rehta hai kyunki bacchon ko sirf pyar ki zaroorat hoti hai.. ye kehna ki bacchon ko pyaar isliye karti hai ki vo bacchey becharey kuch keh nahi saktey ya bol na pane k karan react nahi kar saktey.. ye  bilkul galat hai.. kisi mahila k liye sabsey jyada kashtprad yahi hota hai jab uskey unconditional love ko bojh samjha janey lagta hai.. tabhi to vo apna pyar bacchon per udelti hai.. kyunki bacchey bhi usi se unconditional pyar kartey hain jab koi unhein unconditional love de.

2 comments:

  1. "kyunki bacchey bhi usi se unconditional pyar kartey hain jab koi unhein unconditional love de"

    correct

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  2. i agree with ur statement. insaan ko kabhi dukh nahi pahunchana chahiye.. ye bat bhi sach hai ki jisey ap sabsey jyada chahtey hain usi ki fikra karte hain or sabsey jyada expectations bhi..

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